I have to ask around and hear what others thought of me. I too did well in school and was popular and had good friends, but I had a secret life too.. Just a bit ahead of our time, right? So why were you bleeding so much in high school?
I’d like to co-sign this 900 times. I spent so much of my life trying to be a good girl, and all it does is make you sick. It’s bullshit. It keeps you small and always feeling like you’re somehow or another not good enough. Vindictive? Because you had the audacity to stand up for yourself? Bwahahaha. Bring. It. On.
Oh my God. I feel this piece so intensely. I burn with that same bitter realization that I was sold a total package of lies and even worse than that, that I bought it for as long as I did. I'm nearly 48 and I am just now really digging into the meat of all my shit. I was a good girl too and all it got me was hurt...
Kudos to all of you who may be classified as "difficult" for speaking your truth and taking care of yourself and refusing to co-sign others' bullshit. Call me difficult too, and as a recovering woman figuring out life one day, one job, one partner at a time, difficult is a compliment and means I am likely not your doormat. Not today. Perhaps this is why I enjoy cooking - my expectations are rarely unreasonable.
I have to ask around and hear what others thought of me. I too did well in school and was popular and had good friends, but I had a secret life too.. Just a bit ahead of our time, right? So why were you bleeding so much in high school?
I’d like to co-sign this 900 times. I spent so much of my life trying to be a good girl, and all it does is make you sick. It’s bullshit. It keeps you small and always feeling like you’re somehow or another not good enough. Vindictive? Because you had the audacity to stand up for yourself? Bwahahaha. Bring. It. On.
Hell yes. It never benefits us, just the people who want us to stay small. Thank you Ally!
Oh my goodness YES! You hit the nail in the head!
If this hasn’t gotten sorted yet, pm me. Your lawyer friend who knows a thing or two about this sort of thing. Much love. Merritt
Ohhhh I will!!
“You don’t accrue points for good behavior, you only get them docked when you stop being a doormat.”
LOVE, LOVE, LOVE!
So true right?
This was an amazing read thank you.
Thank you so much
This was a transforming write up. Sticks with you.
Thank you ❤️
"I don’t want to be a good girl anymore. It’s unsustainable."
thank you, michelle, for sharing so transparently.
i'm 69 and a recovering good girl.
I love this- really resonates for me!
I love this - great writing and GOOD FOR YOU!
Resonates so much! Going through the process now of not being a crowd pleaser anymore...it feels good.
Thanks for sharing
It's hard work to change but not harder than staying the same. I'm glad you're doing it too.
Oh my God. I feel this piece so intensely. I burn with that same bitter realization that I was sold a total package of lies and even worse than that, that I bought it for as long as I did. I'm nearly 48 and I am just now really digging into the meat of all my shit. I was a good girl too and all it got me was hurt...
Not only is this post liked, it's mad LOVED.
The response has been INCREDIBLE. I’ve been blushing for days.
You were an amazing little girl, and have obviously grown up to be a bad ass woman!!!
Love all your insights of navigating life by your own rule book!
Sandy! Well I’m a lot more bad ass because I learned all about The Stones from you ❤️
Kudos to all of you who may be classified as "difficult" for speaking your truth and taking care of yourself and refusing to co-sign others' bullshit. Call me difficult too, and as a recovering woman figuring out life one day, one job, one partner at a time, difficult is a compliment and means I am likely not your doormat. Not today. Perhaps this is why I enjoy cooking - my expectations are rarely unreasonable.
Exactly! Let’s stop being afraid of being called difficult. They’re going to call us names no matter what.
So much truth so beautifully shared. Thank you for this piece it is so needed.
Thank you so much. I know you can relate ❤️